As I Walk in the Wildflowers

Have you ever noticed how flowers can bring out different emotions/ feelings?

  • Sometimes it’s joy- a birthday bouquet. 
  • Sometimes it’s gratitude- a dozen roses on a wedding anniversary.
  • Sometimes it’s surprise- a friend stops by with “congrats on your new job” flowers. 
  • Sometimes it’s a hint of a smile in a sea of sadness- flower arrangements that fill a church during times of loss. 

The beauty of the human spirit is, when our friends/ family are celebrating, we celebrate. When they hurt, we hurt. 

Many of my friends and family are in the season of sadness. Loss has taken a front seat lately. 

That’s such a difficult season to be in. It’s hard to know what to do for somebody who’s in grief’s midst. 

Recently, I delivered meals to my friend who just lost her mom, and I also gave her a bouquet of flowers I picked from my road. She loved them.

For all of my friends/ family whose hearts are heavy, I am thinking of you, especially so this morning,  as I walk in the wildflowers. 


49 thoughts on “As I Walk in the Wildflowers

  1. Sorry about the time of loss-that was our area last April!
    And I love your words here – “the hint of a smile” –
    Oh and I think food and flowers are the top things to give someone – and just that quiet support of presence –
    In the 90s when s church lady lost two children – is asked how I could help – and she said she could use some company going to a grief group – (for parents who lost kids) I went with her three times and I was changed forever – made me a better mom and person – but also prepped me for loss – never easy – so final down here – and so layered – oh and one thing that I always remind folks of is something CS Lewis once said – about how loss is not something we just get over – instead – we adapt and move on – and I think it was an analogy was living with the loss of s limb – I ha e once used the analogy
    like if the side of the house was ripped off – tarp goes up and we weather proof – but life is we –
    And also the person’s essence remains with us – anyhow –
    Do you know what the white wildflower are in your photos?

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    • Hi, I just LOVE what you said. It IS like a house with a tarp, something is just missing…

      I love the CS Lewis thought, too. I really love your word “layered”. That is the perfect description for a loss.

      It makes me think of a beautiful rose with the petals all peeled back… :)

      The white flowers are called Queen Ann’s Lace. They are my absolute favorites. Hundreds of tiny flowers make up one flower head. They’re just gorgeous. They’re known as weeds around here and as soon as the hay tractors come by, they’ll be cut down and used as part of the hay. For now, I photograph them like crazy! :)

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    • PS How lovely that you attended grief classes with her. I bet that was sad. That’s such a testament of compassion for someone else. I love that you said it made you a better mom and person.

      I’m glad you do food and flowers as well. I always feel like I’m not doing enough. :)

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      • Well thanks for your nice reply! For some reason I do very well at funerals – I guess I used to have a serious side and my innate counselor found that people are sobered at times like these – they see bigger pictures and maybe just value life more!
        And on my former blog I had a page to remember some folks “in memory of….”
        And it mentioned Mrs Narain from CO!
        Anyhow – recently we had two local teens die in a drunk driving related accident – and after the funeral for the one teen – I noticed everyone was extra grumpy – and protein and dense food was like water to soil- so you are very right about the food!
        Oh and sorry to keep rambling – but had a pet loss this year too and guess what – the cheer me up flowers I received brought three weeks of joy – such a pretty distraction – 🌸

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        • I love rambling, so you’ve come to the right spot!

          I admire your gift of attending funerals. I don’t do well at them at all. I’d much rather say goodbye under a starry sky.

          How sad about the accident. Nothing worse than losing kids too young. I bet that would leave only a frame standing in the house analogy, wind would whip through glass-less windows and tarps wouldn’t stay nailed down…

          That’s a great point about the protein and dense foods. My grandmothers always took hearty casseroles and home-y desserts. Something someone would find comforting at 3 am when grief robbed them of sleep.

          I’m so sad to hear about your pet. Sending healing thoughts your way.

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          • Thanks for the pet condolences – and glad you like to ramble a bit ! ;)
            And the casserole sounds like a great idea!
            Oh and music is another thing I have heard is really helpful for grief !
            I used to listen to focus on the family many years ago and one episode had a widow share that the only thing that helped her and the two children – was singing – and during the hardest shock phase they sat on the bed and could only sing – words were not available – and I guess something about food – flowers – and tunes!

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          • Oh… I can just picture that, singing is truly healing and I’m so glad you mentioned it. I think I’ll add soothing cd’s to my food/ flowers gifts. Greatest idea ever!

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  2. Grief is such a sad season and you’re right Jess, it can be hard to know the right words. . But you have such a kind and loving heart. I’m sure your friends and family appreciate you. Sending you warm hugs and a bouquet of bright pink wildflowers of friendship to brighten you up xo

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  3. What a lovely post, Jess. I love Queen Anne’s Lace as well. I know it’s a weed, but I love them. They are so cheery. I think when we don’t know what to say, we can DO instead. Flowers, cookies, any gesture of kindness says a lot and means so much. Thanks for sharing the beauty along your walk. :)

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    • Hi Karen, I absolutely LOVE “DO”. It’s like the action of extending a hand eases the hurt on both sides. The handing over of the items you mentioned can really make a difference to someone.

      I saw the Queen Ann’s Lace in your post about the King. It’s funny how we can be so far apart, yet we’re looking at the same flowers…

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      • Odd as this may sound, I am thankful that I can write, meaning that I know how to express myself in words and on paper, even if others never see it. Sometimes we simply have no words when others are hurting, and simply doing can mean so much. Your post generated lots of thoughts on helping and self-expression. I love this type of dialog. :)

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        • That’s a great point. I know exactly what you mean. Writing gives my heart that aches for others freedom to express words I may not be able to utter when face to face with someone I love whose heart is crushed.

          I love you guy’s comments. Everyone has been touched by grief at some point, and it’s comforting to hear other views on what grief feels like, and ideas for how to help others in their times of need.

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  4. A really lovely and caring post, Jessica. That Queen Anne’s Lace flower reminded me of when my sister and I were children and used to go walking down the country lanes near our home. We collected wild flowers for our mom and took them home. I’m sorry for the sadness in the lives of your family and friends at the moment. I’m sure your kindness and thoughtfulness are so appreciated. xx

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    • Oh my gosh, I love your memory of picking flowers with your sister for your mom down the country lanes. I bet she loved getting those.

      Thank you for your thoughtful words. I’ll be glad when sadness’ turn is over and joy makes her presence known once again.

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  5. Jessica this is a touching post filled with your love and compassion for your friends suffering heartache. Flowed, their beauty, scent, is such a comfort at such times and your idea of wild flowers is wonderfully original. Thank you for thinking of us all…I know your words and kindness mean a lot. Warmest wishes to you xx

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    • Hey sweet girl, I’ve been waiting, hoping you’d read this one. :) I’ve been thinking about you a lot. Especially every time I’m outside and see Queen Anne’s Lace. I hope your family is doing ok in this sad time. Sending healing thoughts. Hugs!

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  6. Such an emotional write. Where there is deep love, we experience deep loss. I enjoyed reading and looking at the pictures. With each wild flower, there is the promise of provision (look at the lilies in the field.. )
    Beautiful share :)
    Dajena :)

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