Dear Miracle Mommas

/ Jessica

Dear Miracle Mommas,

I know the word miracle in front of mommas is going to throw some of you off, but stick with me for a few minutes and I think you’ll understand.

For the past decade, I have been just this side of Special. The first 3 years were beautiful baby bliss. The next 4 years were test results, IEP meetings, studying Special Education rights, and juggling therapist filled days.

These 3 recent years have been about finding balance, being a voice, and learning to trust my own God-given mother’s intuition.

I am feeling a nudge to write you and tell you that no matter where you are in this journey, that you can absolutely do this. Whether you are a veteran momma 30 years in, somewhere in the middle, or one of the new “1 in 36” mommas, this letter is for you.

Back in the beginning, I identified myself as a special needs mom. But, the more I’ve been in it, the more there’s been a shift. Right now, I see myself in a different sort of role and I’m really at home being a Miracle Momma.

Every kid on this planet is a genuine miracle. Every single one. Do some kiddos have bumps along the way? Maybe. But, those bumps can ultimately make life more endearing and memorable.

I decided not to sit here and fill your time and space with “don’ts.” That sure would be easy to do, but we are each on our own paths.

What I would like to do is share some of the up-sides of this journey. Because, let’s face it, if a kiddo has a medical issue, any sort of delay, or even a learning difficulty, those aren’t generally portrayed as gifts. In fact, the connotation with them can be quite the opposite sometimes.

Looking back to when we got the news of a severe language delay, I wish someone would’ve looked me in the eye and said, “Ahhhh, you can totally do this,” in a super nonchalant, tip their head to the side, while waving their hand, kind of way.

Well, I didn’t know anybody at the time, and that’s ok. I figured things out. What would really be cool is, if something I learned could help you, even the tiniest bit.

Here goes:

  • Be open to the idea that someone, somewhere understands what you’re going through.
  • Be open to the idea that you are enough, exactly the way you are.
  • Be open to the possibility that you may know more about your kiddo than anyone does.
  • Be open to the idea that your intuition is a wonderful guide.
  • Be open to the possibility that even on hard days, the answers can still be found. Keep looking.
  • Be open to the possibility that you may find your authentic, genuine, amazing self at any moment.
  • Be open to the idea that even in those lonely moments, there is a possibility that true friendships will spring forth from unexpected places.
  • Be open to the idea that your child is learning about faith, love, and determination by watching you.
  • Be open to the idea that everything you need is already inside you.
  • Be open to the idea that you are stronger than you think.
  • Be open to the idea that by being your child’s voice, you may find your own.
  • Be open to the absolute 1000% possibility that you will, without a doubt, find your way.
  • Be open to the idea that 10 or 20 years into this, you may be holding out a hand of support to another momma just like you. (That’s a pretty humbling thought, isn’t it?)

I thank you for your time. Thank you for reading this. I’m going to leave you with one final thought. You know that light that shines so bright in your child?

I bet there’s one just like it that shines in you.

Sincerely,

Jessica Adam

41 thoughts on “Dear Miracle Mommas”

  2. Jessica, that was simply beautiful. You are one wise momma. :) My hubby and I just got home from a support group for family of children with a mental illness. We have discovered some great resources for our son, and for ourselves. Reading this tonight, was perfect timing. Little bit is blessed to have you as his momma. Thanks for sharing and god bless. xo

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    • Hi, sweet friend. What a wonderful surprise to see you here. I’m SO glad you read it. Thank you for that. Love what you said about the resources. That’s one thing I’ve learned about the answers, sometimes we have to keep looking until we find them. Love that this was perfect timing for you. This writing is the best truth I know. I cried when the words came to me and while writing it. My hope is that it reaches everyone who needs it. I appreciate your comments. ❤️

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  7. Beautifully said. I wish there was someone like you to tell me these things 30+ years ago when we were going thru issues with my daughter. Thank you. When I was working a group of parents of IEP kids got together and helped support each other thru a lot of the issues you face, and help new parents. You are a miracle mom. Hats off to you.

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    • Thank you SO much. I cried when the words came to me while driving to art class on Tuesday. Had tears running while writing it, and bawled rereading it. Pure heart there. ❤️ Thank you for your comments. I love that picture, too. My favorite!

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    • Hi honey!! What a gift to see your comments here. Thank you so much. You mean so much to me. Thank you for being such a pillar of strength. Your cheery outlook is so wonderful. ❤️

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