Dear Miracle Mommas,
I know the word miracle in front of mommas is going to throw some of you off, but stick with me for a few minutes and I think you’ll understand.
For the past decade, I have been just this side of Special. The first 3 years were beautiful baby bliss. The next 4 years were test results, IEP meetings, studying Special Education rights, and juggling therapist filled days.
These 3 recent years have been about finding balance, being a voice, and learning to trust my own God-given mother’s intuition.
I am feeling a nudge to write you and tell you that no matter where you are in this journey, that you can absolutely do this. Whether you are a veteran momma 30 years in, somewhere in the middle, or one of the new “1 in 36” mommas, this letter is for you.
Back in the beginning, I identified myself as a special needs mom. But, the more I’ve been in it, the more there’s been a shift. Right now, I see myself in a different sort of role and I’m really at home being a Miracle Momma.
Every kid on this planet is a genuine miracle. Every single one. Do some kiddos have bumps along the way? Maybe. But, those bumps can ultimately make life more endearing and memorable.
I decided not to sit here and fill your time and space with “don’ts.” That sure would be easy to do, but we are each on our own paths.
What I would like to do is share some of the up-sides of this journey. Because, let’s face it, if a kiddo has a medical issue, any sort of delay, or even a learning difficulty, those aren’t generally portrayed as gifts. In fact, the connotation with them can be quite the opposite sometimes.
Looking back to when we got the news of a severe language delay, I wish someone would’ve looked me in the eye and said, “Ahhhh, you can totally do this,” in a super nonchalant, tip their head to the side, while waving their hand, kind of way.
Well, I didn’t know anybody at the time, and that’s ok. I figured things out. What would really be cool is, if something I learned could help you, even the tiniest bit.
- Be open to the idea that someone, somewhere understands what you’re going through.
- Be open to the idea that you are enough, exactly the way you are.
- Be open to the possibility that you may know more about your kiddo than anyone does.
- Be open to the idea that your intuition is a wonderful guide.
- Be open to the possibility that even on hard days, the answers can still be found. Keep looking.
- Be open to the possibility that you may find your authentic, genuine, amazing self at any moment.
- Be open to the idea that even in those lonely moments, there is a possibility that true friendships will spring forth from unexpected places.
- Be open to the idea that your child is learning about faith, love, and determination by watching you.
- Be open to the idea that everything you need is already inside you.
- Be open to the idea that you are stronger than you think.
- Be open to the idea that by being your child’s voice, you may find your own.
- Be open to the absolute 1000% possibility that you will, without a doubt, find your way.
- Be open to the idea that 10 or 20 years into this, you may be holding out a hand of support to another momma just like you. (That’s a pretty humbling thought, isn’t it?)
I thank you for your time. Thank you for reading this. I’m going to leave you with one final thought. You know that light that shines so bright in your child?
I bet there’s one just like it that shines in you.